church and scandal, continued




 I'm still thinking about the news of the RZ scandal I wrote about last week. 


Thinking about the strange silence from the Christian community's online presence regarding this. I'm not sure if it's because they don't know what do say or they don't want to say it. 


Thinking about how Lori Anne Thompson's counselor told her not to tell anyone about her abuse because "the kingdom of God would be irreparably damaged." If the kingdom would be damaged by RZ's disgrace more than by Lori Anne's abuse, then that's not the kingdom of God. 


Thinking about how the Gospel Coalition wrote an article about this, concluding with the statement, "Leaders, because Jesus took the form of a servant for us, we can serve others. We must not exploit them for our sexual or financial gain. We must tremble before the judgment of God, because we will give an account." Feeling like this so misses the mark, demonstrating that the concern is more over how the consequences of scandal affect Christian leaders than how the abuse itself affects the victims. The concern is over judgment - present and future - rather than ultimately the well-being of women or any oppressed. 


Thinking about how the church has a perfection complex that seems opposed to the gospel it preaches. Wondering why so many of these leaders think the church is better when it looks good than when it is good. Wondering how that will ever make for a better world. Bad fruit means a bad tree, Jesus said. Sometimes good trees turn into bad trees over time; that happened to the fruit trees in my front yard. But we don't keep pretending like the fruit is good; we don't keep eating it. We're actually talking about cutting those trees down. 


Thinking about how the system we've put in place creates a culture ripe for abuse, where leaders are given authority and we are explicitly taught to trust that authority and not ourselves. 


Thinking about when I met with a pastor recently to talk about my concerns in the church as I questioned a lot about faith, and how the final question he asked me was "Then what will the authority in your life be now?" I wanted to say "I will," but I didn't because I knew it would sound foolish and arrogant. But I am. I'll choose to follow wise counsel and beautiful teachings, but I am the authority in my life. Wondering why of everything, that was the final question. 


Thinking about how people say "But we're all sinners," as if this is on the same level. Thinking about how we're taught that somehow the fact that none of us are perfect means that we're all equal, when we're not. What RZ did is far worse than anything I have done, and yet I feel like I'm not supposed to say that. We shouldn't look at a prolific abuser and think that we're the same. 


Thinking about the future. How do we move forward? It seems like we need new structure. New vision of a kingdom. New idea of the gospel. New voices and new platforms. New desire for justice. New priorities. New authorities. 



The Gospel Coalition article ended with these words: "For anyone who’s suffered abuse, past and present, you can know that justice will be done, sooner or later. Be assured: 'God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.'" I don't think that sounds as comforting as they meant it. We don't want justice sooner or later. We want a church that sees this as their responsibility right here and right now. 


If putting an end to abuse within the people who call themselves the church isn't the church's absolute priority, what is? If that isn't the gospel, then I don't know if the gospel is really good news to the oppressed. And if it isn't, then I don't think that's what Jesus was really after. 



"The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, 

because he has anointed me

to bring good news to the poor. 


He has sent me to proclaim release to the captives

and recovery of sight to the blind,

to let the oppressed go free, 

to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor."

-Luke 4





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  1. I don't usually comment publicly, I prefer texting you Shelby ;) but I feel I had to add my threnody to your voice. I weep with agreement; "The concern is over judgment - present and future - rather than ultimately the well-being of women or any oppressed . . . the church has a perfection complex that seems opposed to the gospel it preaches." I have long told anyone who would listen that one of the Church's main attractants is [ahem, should be] honesty, not its "goodness." The sycophantic clinging to a goodness façade is repulsive, antithetical to our true condition, runs against the good news of Jesus, and it will and can never be, the rallying point and clarion call of the Church. I am a beggar telling other beggars where I found bread, no more, no less. And let me put it bluntly, anyone who thinks the Church's goodness is its shining witness is not in touch with their own sin, much less the sins committed in broad daylight against their fellow human, and often under the token flag of Christendom. And for those who want to argue about not being an active participant in condoning such atrocities, I would encourage them to read about the Sheep and the Goats and note the sins of omission.

    Fear is like a fog for the insecure, and those who are silent in the face of abuse only make the fog deepen, further suffocating the vulnerable and oppressed. We must weep with the wronged, fight for the oppressed, and seek shalom for those who cannot seek it for themselves.

    Bullies, especially emotional, spiritual, and sexual ones, raise my ire like few things can and makes me put the “fist” in “pacifist.” And not just my ire is righteously raised – God’s is. God is portrayed again and again as the defender of the weak, the oppressed, the disinherited, and any Church/organization that feeds into a system that "creates a culture ripe for abuse" is categorically out of touch with the teachings of scripture. The Church is for the least of these; has it forgotten?

    Ravi Zacharias [and all such abusers and predators] has shown contemptuous disregard for personhood, and all mistreatment that belittles and abuses the identity of image-bearers-of-God must be fought against and decried in the strongest possible terms. The Church should lead this cry. It should lead in mourning for these women in sackcloth and ashes.

    One more thought . . . I don’t fully understand the question, "Then what will the authority in your life be now?" Because, I know what people are trying to mean when they say that. I believe that they are trying to point to a standard by which all standards are drawn, and in one sense, I very much agree. If I believe that there is a supreme metaphysical being, let’s say the God of the Bible, most clearly shown in the personhood of Jesus, and that all objective moral values are grounded in God and God is the "locus of moral value," then yes, I understand how that is, by necessity, whether I agree or not, a supreme standard and an authority for all thinking, belief, and conduct. However, that authority does not in any logical way extend to the church, and we, all of us, every day, do not live within the standards that we believe to be true. How many times have I not believed XYZ about someone, behaved foolishly, only to find out the truth about XYZ?! Truth bites back when it is real. And then we (hopefully) think (or are convicted) back into living in light of said unchanging standards/authority. But we all, even subliminally, wrestle with the epistemological and ontological nature of knowing and our invitation into this inquiry, and we must make the decision regarding wherein to put that trust. In so doing, we are using our minds to think our way through to this conclusion. Jesus even encourages this type of thinking in Matthew 6:26. The leap of faith really isn’t as blind as many have come to believe (with best regards to Søren).

    Thanks again for posting Shelby.

    - Nathaniel

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  2. Beautifully said, Shelby <3

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  3. I understand your frustration with what happened with RZ, but I also know when we elevate a man who is ultimately flawed as we all are anything is possible. My concern is about people who actually knew about what was happening and would be hard pressed to believe that his staff didn't know. They should have stepped up and confronted him. If know one did then that creates a climate of allowing the addiction and sin to continue. We just found out that our doctor of 25 years from the Mormon church has been sexually abusing young girls of a certain age for years. His staff knew and so did two hospitals, so this is not just a problem within the church. These issues are prevalent in all parts of society and have been around since the beginning of time. Nothing new under the sun. Often these kinds of issues are not that clear and I think it is unfair to put all churches under the umbrella of ignoring these issues. I know someone who has a ministry in our church and others where she provides help for abuse issue of all kinds. I believe the awareness of these issues is at an all time high. An abuser will do everything they can not to get caught and people are often shocked when they find out that who did what. Growing up there was a pastor who had four children and a wonderful wife. It wasn't until years later that it came out that he was a sexual predator. If the elders of the church knew they didn't do anything. That being said I don't know if they knew. His wife didn't believe it was true. I know that at one point he had a total mental breakdown, but other than that don't know any details. This is a very difficult topic and feel that the church can't know everything that goes on behind closed doors. If the church knows about someone being abusive and doesn't confront then there is an issue. These are complicated issues and getting the abused to come forward is not an easy task. Often the church doesn't have qualified people to walk through these very difficult situations. I would love to hear your solution to these very complicated difficult issues. I am also an abuse victim and it hasn't been until years later that I realized it wasn't my fault. Statue of limitations is past, so I have no recourse. This was not church related at all. I also have seen people be accused of sexual abuse out of spite. There were three girls in a school who didn't like a teacher and accused him of sexual abuse. His life was turned upside down. As the investigation went forward they found that the girls had lied and they ended up doing community service. I'm not sure how the church would provide the necessary tools for people other than what I have seen with the person I already mentioned. What do you propose? People that are sexual predators need to be identified and helped and held accountable. The people that are the recipients of the abuse need help. How can the church meet all of these needs?


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